Insecure guys

So... first of all. I had an amazing 3sum tonight! With my friend J from MFA and Maggie who I haven't seen in months. We achieved the ultimate goal. A DP! They make it look so easy in the porn videos but it's not so easy in real life. But we did it and it was fantastic! We did the DP for at least 10 or 15 minutes. It was fucking hot. J came in her pussy. I pulled out of her ass. Cleaned up and switched condoms, fucked her in her pussy, and then gave her a huge facial.

When we were all basking in the afterglow and chatting a bit I brought up a recent thought.

I mentioned that while we had a nice 4sum a few weekends ago in Minneapolis I had a light bulb moment. A swinger epiphany.

Over the past few years Maria and I have had several "unfortunate" meetings with other couples. We would meet for drinks. The conversation would be great. Everything would seem to be going well. Then we would get behind closed doors, as they say, and the clothes would come off. We would start to kiss and lick and suck. My cock would get hard. Julia would get horny and ready to fuck. The other lady would see my hard cock and be into it, we would start to play. I would start to fuck the other lady, she would be moaning and groaning and cumming, and the guy in the other couple would wilt...

Maria would get frustrated. It seemed to happen over and over again that I would have fun with the other lady, the other lady would have fun with me, but Maria would be stuck with a guy who just couldn't get it up. Maria would always blame herself. It had to be because she was fat. Unattractive. I would always tell her she was crazy but she didn't believe me.

Then we got together with this couple in Minneapolis. We had a lot of fun with them but it "bordered" on being the same issue. The other guy kept on saying things like, "damn, you get hard and stay hard for hours it seems. what's up with that?!" and "you just keep on going and going. damn!" He had "issues" for a bit but eventually got very hard and fucked Maria for a nice long time so it ended up being a very nice evening for everyone.

but afterwords it hit me...  I've always said that Maria is amazing. I've fucked a lot of women and I think she's one end of the bell curve. She's in the 1%. Just amazing to play with. One of my problems is that I've always been slightly insecure. But after going to many GBs over the years I know that I have a really nice big cock. I also know that I have amazing endurance at this point. I'm like the energizer bunny. I can keep going and going and going. I am also a heavy cummer. So it hit me. I'm kind of amazing also. Not the 1% but certainly in the top 5%. Maria and I make quite a team. Perhaps that's why when we fuck each other the sex is so amazing?!

So it hit me that I bet in at least a few of the times we've had "issues" with other couples it wasn't Maria that was the "problem". It was me. It was my big hard cock that stays hard for a long long time. It was the fact that I can fuck for hours and not cum. The other guy would look over and have a moment of insecurity and that was that. Boner kill for him. Game over. What we seem to forget, and I totally wasn't thinking about this, was that men are totally insecure. Especially when it comes to their cock size and performance issues. Why do you think you see all those commercials for Viagra every night?

So I mentioned this thought to J and Maggie. J cracked up and said he knew exactly what I was talking about! He had the same sort of experience and his wife had gotten frustrated meeting other swinging couples because of the same thing. He had figured it out a lot faster than me! He gave me some great advice. The next time we meet a couple. I should keep my clothes on and just watch. Let the other guy have fun with Maria and his wife and then jump in later. That actually sounds like fun to me. Why didn't I think of that?!

Maria is actually out of town for a few days. I miss her a lot. I can't wait to tell her this story! She knows I went out tonight but we weren't able to really talk about what happened...